Navigating Aggression, Asserting Self
As women with limitless potential, we often face conflicts or uncomfortable situations in our professional environments that can disturb our serenity, prevent us from showing up as the best version of ourselves, and even hinder our growth. However, we possess the power to transform these challenges into opportunities for extraordinary outcomes. I'll never forget when I experienced this firsthand.
Early in my career, I discovered that toxic work cultures were pervasive in my industry, particularly in metropolitan areas, where hostile environments were often concealed. I was the target of such aggression, which eroded my inner peace. Yet, defying colleagues' whispers to conform ("silence is golden, criticism is costly"), I practiced assertive communication, advocated the respect of personal boundaries, and sought the enforcement of policies and procedures. At the time, this shift in approach was entirely new to me. My small-town upbringing, where mutual respect and integrity were exchanged naturally, hadn't prepared me for such animosity. However, navigating these challenges clarified my core values, professional ethics, and the meaning of “keep your conscience clear.”
The Power of Self-Awareness
Recognizing our values, strengths, and weaknesses is crucial in navigating difficult situations. With a deeper understanding of ourselves, we can develop elegant solutions that align with our personal growth.
Three Key Strategies
Research supports the effectiveness of these elegant solutions:
1. Mindful Communication: Listen actively, ask clarifying questions, and articulate your needs clearly (Gilliland & Dunn, 2003).
2. Emotional Intelligence: Acknowledge and manage your emotions to respond thoughtfully, rather than react impulsively (Goleman, 1995).
3. Empathetic Understanding: Seek to comprehend the perspectives and needs of others, fostering a collaborative environment (Covey, 2004).
